Thursday, January 1, 2015

Our New Year Message to You

    Happy New Year all!  - Some things to consider about 2014 and for 2015: Remember that every year will have challenges whether they be financial, health, relationships or the passing of people or precious pets we love. No year should really be looked as a miserable, because we all learn from our experiences and they make us stronger, better people. 
    We need to learn not to hate, and not to judge an entire people by the actions of a few. Whether it be in a profession or a race or religion. One person doesn't represent all. Just think about this before acting.
   My (Rob) mother passed just before 2014 started, but I came to terms with it quickly because she lived a good life and added so much to my life - as does anyone you love who passed, no matter how young or old they are. Grieving is a natural part of physical loss, but we need to remember those who passed in our hearts, minds and deeds.
  Instead of self-pity and wallowing in grief- Go out and do good things in their memory: like donating to a rescue, helping someone pay for groceries, cook someone a meal, visit someone in a nursing home, bring a hot cup of coffee to someone working outside... and do it in memory of someone. 
   No matter what the challenges, life is a gift. Appreciate the people in your life now, and discard the negative influences.That can be difficult, though, when the negative people are family members- but those family members need to be ignored. If it is a parent who foolishly "hates" a son because he was born gay, the son needs to ignore the parent until they come to their senses. If you deal with mentally ill relatives, after encouraging help - and they don't get it, leave them alone.
   Care for yourself. There is only one you, and YOU affect those around you. Don't wallow in grief, don't cry over what you don't have, but focus on what you do have. Life and every year will never be perfect. To think otherwise is to fool yourself.
   Appreciate the simple things: a hot coffee on a cold day, a smile from a stranger, a green light while driving, a short check out line at the store, a good book or call from a friend. Hug a dog or cat today. Look at the blue sky, sing to your favorite song. Call a friend. Surprise someone with something homemade- like brownies or a card.
   We wish you all a year of happiness and health in 2015 and if you don't have both or either, focus on what you do have, and enjoy every day.
Love, Rob and Tom

Gift/Memorial Suggestions

Several of our friends have lost loved ones (human and pets) and we found that one of the best ways to honor their memory is to give to an animal charity.
What better way to recognize a life of love, than by giving another life a chance for love?
We donate to many animal rescues, but because we volunteer with
DC Weimaraner Rescue and Coast-to-Coast Dachshund Rescue, those are our 2 favorites.
Consider giving the chance of life to a dog or cat.

Great Books by our friends

Great Books by our friends
Check out these great books (yeah, Rob's are in there, too)

About us

We're two married guys who enjoy the simple things in life, especially our dogs. We volunteer for dog rescues, enjoy splitting dinners, exercising, blogging, helping friends and neighbors, ghost investigations, coffee and tea, Tudor history, weather, superheroes, comic books, mystery novels, traveling, 70s and 80s music, classic country, piano, gardening, writing books on ghosts and spirits, architecture, keeping a clean house, cooking simply, and keeping in shape. You'll find tidbits of all of these things on this blog and more.

Tom and Rob Thinking Hard!

Tom and Rob Thinking Hard!
Wondering what home project to do next

Podcast of Rob's 50 min. interview on Paranormal Filler Radio 7/13/14