Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Video: Gay Twins Struggle to Come Out To Dad (YouTube) (and my experience)

Telling people, friends and family, that you're gay is stressful and frightening to gay people. We never know what to expect. Some parents say they've always known. Some are relieved or welcoming. 

     Others act hostile and cite their religions. Some throw their children out and leave them homeless. Some gay kids are beaten in the name of Jesus (it's more common than you think). 

    When I (Rob) came out to my mom and dad (over the phone at 33 years old), my younger brother was there (with my parents) to talk with them and support me.  My dad said "okay, we just won't talk about it." My mother didn't speak to me for 6 months and whenever she answered the phone, she wouldn't say anything when I said "hello"  - and she would hand the phone to my dad. That hurt for a long time.    My mother finally called me 6 months later and said "I've been foolish. I just want you to be happy, and find love like everyone else, but I don't understand it."   Fast-forward to 2009 when I married Tom. She was thrilled that we were getting married and said "Tom is the only son that doesn't give me grief." I joked that she loved Tom more than me and my brothers. 

   So, for people who are struggling with it- it gets better. If your parents are so bent on their religion that they ignore the care and humanity of people, you can't fix it. Sometimes they learn for themselves. Sometimes they don't and we must let them be. What's important is to be who you are, and be true to yourself as these twin brothers did in this video. - Rob

Date: 15-Jan-2015
Do you remember the moment when you told your father you were gay? Twins Aaron and Austin Rhodes filmed as they rang their dad to break the news to him. Check out the emotional clip below :


Gift/Memorial Suggestions

Several of our friends have lost loved ones (human and pets) and we found that one of the best ways to honor their memory is to give to an animal charity.
What better way to recognize a life of love, than by giving another life a chance for love?
We donate to many animal rescues, but because we volunteer with
DC Weimaraner Rescue and Coast-to-Coast Dachshund Rescue, those are our 2 favorites.
Consider giving the chance of life to a dog or cat.

About us

We're two married guys who enjoy the simple things in life, especially our dogs. We volunteer for dog rescues, enjoy splitting dinners, exercising, blogging, helping friends and neighbors, ghost investigations, coffee and tea, Tudor history, weather, superheroes, comic books, mystery novels, traveling, 70s and 80s music, classic country, piano, gardening, writing books on ghosts and spirits, architecture, keeping a clean house, cooking simply, and keeping in shape. You'll find tidbits of all of these things on this blog and more.

Tom and Rob Thinking Hard!

Tom and Rob Thinking Hard!
Wondering what home project to do next