Friday, April 12, 2013

Head-Shaking "Ask Amy" Column

We recently read this letter in the "Ask Amy"section of the newspaper and wonder why people don't think they don't deserve better in their relationships. Apparently, the woman that wrote this letter doesn't think much of herself, but she really needs to move on. 
 **If you're feeling down about yourself or don't think you deserve good things, think again. You are as wonderful as the next person. *Having more money or less money than someone else doesn't define what's inside. What's inside your heart and soul is what makes you special.   
  Now, read this letter and see what you think.
Ask Amy: Hot-tubbing at the house tests relationship 
DEAR AMY: My live-in boyfriend of five years has recently rekindled a friendship with a girl he knew in grade school. Twice in the last week he has invited her to our home to play pool, have a lot of drinks and soak in our hot tub. He hasn't shared his plans to have her over until the last minute as I was leaving work; at that point he then extended the invite for me to join them.
I feel as if I'm in second place to him hanging out with another female in our home. I speak my mind about how it makes me feel, and the situation gets spun as if I'm crazy. He then won't speak to me for the rest of the night. Sometimes he spins some negativity back on me so that he can be upset with me on something that is off topic.
As they spend hours hanging out, laughing, drinking, playing pool, soaking in our hot tub until past midnight, I'm sitting in my room boiling under the surface. I'm upset and sad that he doesn't comfort me as they're having a blast. She has a boyfriend, and my boyfriend reassures me they would never cross the line and become intimate. I trust that.
I try to speak to him, but most of the time he has had a few drinks, or he is drinking with his friends and insults me, or he shuts me down and dismisses my feelings. Should I give him space to be with her? Am I an idiot? I cannot speak to him rationally about this because he loses his composure and it escalates. I feel alone. — Lonely Girlfriend

Our answer is: Get the heck OUT of that ridiculous relationship, girl. If you do stay in it, yes, you are an idiot. You deserve better. - Rob 

Gift/Memorial Suggestions

Several of our friends have lost loved ones (human and pets) and we found that one of the best ways to honor their memory is to give to an animal charity.
What better way to recognize a life of love, than by giving another life a chance for love?
We donate to many animal rescues, but because we volunteer with
DC Weimaraner Rescue and Coast-to-Coast Dachshund Rescue, those are our 2 favorites.
Consider giving the chance of life to a dog or cat.

About us

We're two married guys who enjoy the simple things in life, especially our dogs. We volunteer for dog rescues, enjoy splitting dinners, exercising, blogging, helping friends and neighbors, ghost investigations, coffee and tea, Tudor history, weather, superheroes, comic books, mystery novels, traveling, 70s and 80s music, classic country, piano, gardening, writing books on ghosts and spirits, architecture, keeping a clean house, cooking simply, and keeping in shape. You'll find tidbits of all of these things on this blog and more.

Tom and Rob Thinking Hard!

Tom and Rob Thinking Hard!
Wondering what home project to do next