If you think that gay couples don't face discrimination since gay marriage became the law of the land, think again. The Washington Post just published a story about a gay Husband Not Allowed to Claim his Husband's Body. (BTW, it also happened to a couple here in the Washington, DC area 2 years ago after they were married and one passed).
Our christian friends say "Christians should Never do such horrible things," and they're right. But Christians, especially in the Southern U.S. do this ALL THE TIME and they are the face of christianity in the southern U.S. It's inhumane, it's appalling, it's disgusting, it's evil. Just imagine not being allowed to claim your spouse's body after they pass in a hospital or having a funeral home refuse to have services for your deceased spouse. That's the reality of many christians in the Southern U.S., whether people want to believe it or not.
They lived as a gay couple in Mississippi for 20 years. The worst indignity came in death, lawsuit says.
Source: WASHINGTON POST
For most of the 52 years he was in a relationship with Robert Huskey,
Jack Zawadski doesn’t remember much in the way of anti-gay
discrimination.
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decoration in the home of Robert Huskey, left, and Jack Zawadski,
featuring old pictures of the married couple. Zawadski is now 82, and
Huskey died last year at age 86. (Veronica Hayyar) |
Not while they were trying to grow apples on a
farm in Wisconsin. Not during the decades they spent as special
education teachers. Not even when they moved to Mississippi 20 years ago
to retire someplace warmer and more lush, or after they married in
2015, when the Supreme Court declared that gay couples have as much of a
right as heterosexuals to marry.
But
in a lawsuit filed in federal court in Pearl River County, Miss.,
Zawadski said that prejudice finally reared its head when he was most
vulnerable: last May, when Huskey died at age 86 after a long illness.
In
a 14-page complaint, Zawadski, 82, said the funeral home that had been
prearranged to pick up and cremate Huskey’s body refused at the last
minute, telling the nursing home that they don’t “deal with their kind.”
In a response filed with the court in March,
the owners of the Picayune Funeral Home in Picayune, Miss., deny the
events as described by Zawadski and his nephew, who made the
arrangements and is co-plaintiff.
Silas W. McCharen, an
attorney for the owners of the funeral home, Ted and Henrietta Brewer,
said in an email that the firm has never discriminated on the basis of
sexual orientation. Henrietta Brewer denies she made reference to not
serving “their kind,” he said, and the firm never refused to pick up the
remains. But he declined to elaborate further.
Zawadski
is being represented by Lambda Legal, an LGBT rights law firm and
advocacy organization based in New York. Because neither Mississippi law
nor federal law explicitly forbid discrimination on the basis of sexual
orientation, the suit is relying on “other state laws that hopefully
will provide a remedy for the terrible actions that happened here,” said
Beth Littrell, the attorney handling the case.
“The
essence of the claim is that they both breached a contract and denied
services at the last minute to a grieving family based on the fact that
the man who had passed away was gay and was married to a man,” said
Littrell, whose organization is seeking unspecified compensatory and
punitive damages from a jury.
For
Zawadski, the suit is a rare activist moment. He said he and his
husband lived unassuming lives and were rarely open with their friends
and neighbors about their sexual orientation. “We lived our lives
quietly,” he said in an interview. “We didn’t hit the bars or anything
like that.”
The pair met in 1965 in California. After
moving around and traveling to indulge their interest in Civil War
history, they decided to settle down in the small town of Picayune, not
far from the Louisiana border. Zawadski grew camellias, and Huskey
served for a time as president of the homeowner’s association.
“And that’s how we lived,” Zawadski said. “We just enjoyed each other.”
They
never mentioned their sexual orientation, and nobody asked, he said —
not even after the two were married by a judge in nearby Hancock County
on Aug. 17, 2015.
Then,
Huskey’s health took a turn, and he underwent bypass surgery, the
complaint said. “Jack cared for Bob through his surgery, recovery and as
his condition deteriorated,” it said. “By August, 2015, Jack was
helping Bob with all the daily functions of life, including eating,
walking and personal hygiene.” Huskey moved into a nursing home, and
last April it became clear that he would soon die.
The
couple’s nephew, John Gaspari, made the arrangements ahead of time with
Picayune Funeral Home, the only funeral home in the county with an
on-site crematory, according to the complaint. Zawadski had hoped to
hold the funeral there so the couple’s local friends could pay their
respects. On May 11, 2016, Gaspari contacted the funeral home to let
them know Huskey had died. But after filing the
paperwork, including a document naming Zawadski as next of kin, Gaspari
got a call from the nursing home.
“The Nursing Home relayed to John that
once received the paperwork indicating that Bob’s spouse was male, PFH
refused service because it did not ‘deal with their kind,’ ” the lawsuit
stated.
Gaspari
and Zawadski were left scrambling to find another funeral home that
could cremate Huskey on-site, according to the complaint. They found one
in Hattiesburg, about 90 minutes away. But because the nursing home did
not have a morgue, it refused to hold Huskey’s remains until the
Hattiesburg facility could retrieve it.
So Gaspari and Zawadski had to
enlist a second, closer funeral home to pick up his body until then.
“The
turmoil and exigency created by Defendants in causing Plaintiffs to
find alternative arrangements, as described above, permanently marred
the memory of Bob’s otherwise peaceful passing,” the complaint said. Zawadski
said his motives for bringing the suit are not financial but rather to
ensure that no one else goes through what he experienced. In a video
produced by Lambda Legal, Zawadski said through tears that the funeral
home had shown disrespect toward his husband.
“This, I hope, brings him some honor,” he said.