Showing posts with label civil rights. Show all posts
Showing posts with label civil rights. Show all posts

Monday, July 31, 2017

Friends of LGBT People: Here Are Trump's 8 Anti-LGBT Attacks in 6 Months

    We have some friends who support LGBT people like us, but voted for Trump for reasons of their own. They also believed he would keep his promise to "be the best LGBT supporter."  They've all told us their vote was NOT against us or LGBT people, and believed Trump wouldn't hurt LGBT People.Well, in 6 months' time, Trump's Administration has already done 8 things to hurt, offend, or deny rights and protections to LGBT people.   We are curious to know if our friends have any regrets. 

HERE'S THE LIST OF TRUMP'S OFFENSES AGAINST LGBT PEOPLE (links to articles below for proof)
1) All LGBT Civil Rights Content Removed from Whitehouse.Gov
2) Rescinded All Protections for Transgender Students on Use of Restrooms in Public Schools

3) Revoked Protections for LGBT Workers against Discrimination in Hiring and Employment

4) Dropped Federal Lawsuit over North Carolina's Statewide Prohibition on LGBT Equalty

5) Trump Refused To Declare June Was National Pride Month

6) Trump Says Transgender People No Longer Allowed To Serve In Military

7)  Justice Department Says Rights Laws Doesn't Protect Gays

8) Nominates Anti-Gay Marriage U.S. Ambassador & Offends Netherlands
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1) ALL LGBT CIVIL RIGHTS CONTENT REMOVED FROM WHITEHOUSE.GOV
The Trump administration removed all references to LGBT civil rights as soon as they got in the White House in January 2017. That was a good indication of what they had planned.

2) RESCINDED ALL PROTECTIONS FOR TRANSGENDER STUDENTS ON USE OF RESTROOMS IN PUBLIC SCHOOLS - This happened in February 2017
The move by the Justice and Education departments reverses guidance the Obama administration publicized in May 2016, which said a federal law known as Title IX protects the right of transgender students to use restrooms and locker rooms that match their gender identities.

3) REVOKED PROTECTIONS FOR LBGT WORKERS AGAINST DISCRIMINIATION IN HIRING AND EMPLOYMENT - White House announced this in March 2017
With little fanfare on Monday, President Donald Trump signed an executive order that LGBTQ advocates say rolls back lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender rights and breaks a promise to that community not to make such changes to existing policy.The executive order revokes key components of the Obama administration's previous executive order banning federal contractors from discriminating against employees on the basis of sexual orientation or identity, gay rights advocates say. http://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/lgbtq-advocates-say-trump-s-news-executive-order-makes-them-n740301


4) DROPPED FEDERAL LAWSUIT OVER NORTH CAROLINA's STATEWIDE PROHIBITION ON LGBT EQUALTY. He ordered this lawsuit dropped in April, 2017.
The Justice Department on Friday said it was dropping a federal lawsuit filed last year against North Carolina over the state’s “bathroom bill,” which restricted the public bathrooms transgender people were allowed to use.

5) TRUMP REFUSED TO DECLARE JUNE WAS NATIONAL PRIDE MONTH to honor all of the LGBT community. For every year of his presidency, Obama issued a pride month proclamation and hosted annual LGBT pride receptions. President Trump did not declare June as LGBT Pride Month. No Republican president has ever recognized June as pride month.

6) TRUMP SAYS TRANSGENDER PEOPLE NO LONGER ALLOWED TO SERVE IN MILITARY
President Donald Trump tweeted July 26, 2017 that transgender people will no longer be allowed to serve in the U.S. military “in any capacity” ― a stunning reversal of an Obama-era policy that affects thousands of service members. He cites “tremendous medical costs and disruption” as his reason. Data show he’s wrong. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/donald-trump-transgender-military_us_597893a9e4b0c95f37605a35?ncid=engmodushpmg00000003

7)  JUSTICE DEPARTMENT SAYS RIGHTS LAWS DOESN'T PROTECT GAYS
July 27, 2017:  On the same day President Donald Trump banned transgender people from serving in the military, citing costs. "The Department of Justice argued in a legal brief on Wednesday that the landmark Civil Rights Act of 1964 offers no protection from discrimination based on sexual orientation, a position advocacy groups condemned as 'shameful' and 'politically driven.'" As for the transgender ban, current service members are saying it's a "shot in the face" and to "try and kick me out of the military." These Republicans are breaking with Trump on the issue, along with these world leaders. And then there's the question of whether it's legal.  
NY Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/27/nyregion/justice-department-gays-workplace.html?mcubz=2

8) NOMINATES ANTI-GAY MARRIAGE U.S. AMBASSADOR & OFFENDS NETHERLANDS
A Dutch LGBT advocacy group has expressed concern over President Trump’s nominee to become the next U.S. ambassador to the Netherlands. Philip Tijsma of COC Nederland noted to the Washington Blade on July 28 that former Michigan Congressman Pete Hoekstra opposes marriage rights for same-sex couples.Hoekstraco-sponsored the Defense of Marriage Act in 1996. The Washington Post noted he also sponsored eight other anti-LGBT bills and opposed efforts to extend adoption rights to same-sex couples. “The position of Mr. Hoekstra on these issues goes against the Dutch policy of promoting acceptance and equal rights for LGBTI people,” Tijsma said. The Netherlands in 2001 became the first country in the world to extend full marriage rights to same-sex couples.
SOURCE: Washington Blade

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Interesting: Why I Rejected Religion and Instead Raised My Son on Star Wars

What a fascinating look at a decision made by two parents of two different religious backgrounds on how they raised their child to embrace only the good things that religions include, and exclude the bad. If ANY religion did that and included science, civil rights and equal treatment of all, then I think there really could be one world-wide "religion." - I wanted to share this because I thought it crazy when I first read it, UNTIL I read it. Then it made perfect sense. See what you think.  Rob

Why I Rejected Religion and Instead Raised My Son on Star Wars



I raised my son without religion. It was by design. I was raised a Hindu and my wife was raised Orthodox and Lutheran. But both of us slowly outgrew religion as we got older and instead adopted practices and beliefs consistent with our experiences in the real world.

And so when Hayden was born we didn’t bother with religion at all. But we aren’t against it either. Because religion does have many beautiful aspects. And one of the biggest is that it teaches life lessons through stories.
Problem is, it also conditions people to take those stories too literally. This leads to all sorts of dumb ideas that have held humanity backwards.
Crimes against apostasy, treating gay people like outcasts, violation of women’s rights and even the act of not being able to enjoy a simple ham sandwich.
Second, religion isn’t yet hackable.

I can’t take the best of Christianity and combine it with the best of Islam and Hinduism. And to do so would cause awkward glares. There is much beauty in the teachings of Christ, the Sufism of Islam, the Bhagavad Gita or the Buddhist teachings of the Dalai Lama. Yet humanity has widely decided that religion should be absolutist.
In short, pick one and stick to it for the rest of your life.
Or worse – pass it on to your children through early indoctrination so they have to stick to one true path for the rest of their lives.
Then repeat for generations.
I want to break this pattern.
So to avoid this with my son I decided to not teach my son religion at all. Hayden understands Newton’s Laws, the rotation of the planet, and gravity and electricity. At 6 he talks about atoms, DNA replication, Elon Musk’s rockets and admires Edison and the Mars Rover. Yet he has no idea what God is.
This is by design.
Simply because we, as a human race, don’t know what God is. And I refuse to pick ONE definition.
Although I believe in God, I don’t think it’s right to teach this idea to a child until he’s old enough to ask the right questions. It’s a fine line between education and indoctrination. 
So I believe that the only way to teach religion is to teach ALL religions.
And I will.
But only when Hayden is older and can make his own conclusions.
But this left a dilemma. How then do I teach Hayden morality and lessons in life?

I found the answer through Star Wars.

Recently Hayden and I sat through 12 hours and all 6 Star Wars movies. It’s amazing how the mind of a 6 year old can get so engrossed with George Lucas’ fiction. But an unexpected benefit was the life lessons that I was able to share with Hayden via Star Wars.

Here are the top 10 things that any parent can teach their child from Star Wars


1. Star Wars teaches you to Trust Yourself


Luke: All right, I’ll give it a try.
Yoda: No. Try not. Do… or do not. There is no try.

[Using the Force, Yoda effortlessly frees the X-Wing from the bog] Luke: I don’t, I don’t believe it.
Yoda: That is why you fail.
The message here is to truly believe in yourself. Simplistic,  I know. But Star Wars weaves the message into the story of Luke in such a beautiful way. We take Luke’s struggles and eventual success as parable for our own lives.

2. Star Wars teaches you to use the Power of Your Mind

Hayden was fascinated by the “Force”. I explained it to him in Yoda’s words:

“For my ally is the Force, and a powerful ally it is. Life creates it, makes it grow. Its energy surrounds us and binds us. Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter. You must feel the Force around you; here, between you, me, the tree, the rock, everywhere, yes.” ~ Yoda
We used the metaphor of the force to teach Hayden mindfulness practices. I’d get him to close his eyes, relax and meditate. Sure he couldn’t last 90 seconds but its a start. But when Hayden fell ill, we used this same idea of the ‘force’ to teach him imagery therapy. He close his eyes and we’d ask him to visualize his lungs getting better. Hayden would do this every night before going to bed. There is a lot of evidence that imagery therapy accelerates healing. And that visualisation can help with goal setting.

3. Star Wars teaches you that We are all Connected

This is very similar to Pantheism, what Richard Dawkins calls “Sexed up Atheism”. It’s the idea that all life is one and we’re all connected and that harming other lifeforms is not optimal.
This is a great way to teach a child the Golden Rule. That we should not harm another because we’re all one. Even if you don’t buy the idea of oneness – at least it trains a child to understand that all life is special. It’s a great way to teach empathy and respect for the environment, plants and animals.

Yoda: Ohhh. Great warrior.
[laughs and shakes his head] Yoda: Wars not make one great.

4. Star Wars Teaches us to Trust our Intuition

I believe in human intuition – the idea that we can sometime’s ‘sense’ or ‘feel’ things outside normal physical lines of communication.
The theme of intuition reoccurs multiple times in Star Wars. When Luke loses his hand and is clinging for his life outside a rafter on Cloud City, he uses his intuition to let his sister Leia know that he’s in trouble.
Kristina and I teach Hayden to “feel from his heart”. When his mom is traveling, I ask him to feel in his heart how mom is doing. Is she happy, or sad. Does she miss him. It does not matter if he’s right or wrong. Because by doing this exercise he’s learning empathy – an important skill.

5. Star Wars teaches you the Danger of Negative Emotions

I remind Hayden of this quote each time he loses his temper…

Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. ~ Yoda
Science has shown that negative emotions like stress can harm performance and cause negative side effects to the human body. Likewise, positive emotions like joy have huge impact on sleep, performance, health and recovery. I found this to be a good way to teach Hayden to identify good vs bad emotion and thus bring himself out of negative states.

6. Star Wars teaches you that Women Kick Butt

Hayden’s at that age where he considers girl’s “icky”. He’s six and will grow out of it. But I helped him see just how awesome women could be by making him a fan of Princess Leia. Who can forget that that scene where she strangles Jabba the Hut while sporting a golden bikini?
Star Wars teaches you that women can be feminine and powerful and rule entire kingdoms with finesse.

Princess Leia: I don’t know who you are or where you came from, but from now on you’ll do as I tell you, okay?

7. Star Wars teaches you that Kids can do amazing things

Young Anakin Skywalker wins the pod racer competition. He also builds his own robots. Ok true, he does grow up to be evil, but from a kid’s point of view I think it’s awesome for Hayden to see another kid accomplish things once reserved for adults.

“Size matters not. Look at me. Judge me by my size, do you? Hmm? Hmm. And well you should not.” ~ Yoda

8. Star Wars teaches you to reject “Absolutism”.

We’re often conditioned to live in a world of black or white. You’re republican or democrat. Hardcore conservative or a soft liberal. We connect blindly to our countries, religions, political parties and cultural groups without releasing that the most brilliant solutions to the world’s problems often lie in the center – within the shades of grey.

“Only the Sith deal in absolutes.” ~ Obi Wan Kenobi

9. Star Wars teaches You to Always Be Growing and Learning

“We are never done with lessons. Not while we live.”Mace Windu
Nuff said.

10. Star Wars teaches you to Question Your Parents

Star Wars teaches you that you don’t have to follow your parents path.Luke rejects his father’s pleas to join the Dark Side. He sets out on his own path. I want my son to know that I may be his Dad, and I will give him advice and guidance and be there for him. But I’m also human and may make mistakes or offer dumb advice sometimes. I want him to question me respectfully.
So we both grow.
I did not write this article to slam organised religion.
It’s written as an ode to Star Wars. But I did also write it to publicly ask questions that I feel should be asked.
1. Why do we insist on raising our kids with our religion? We don’t pass on to our children the idea that they are Democrats or Republicans. We don’t force our kids to take on our professions. Yet from an early age we indoctrinate them with our religion.
2. Worse, we teach then absolutism by getting them to identify themselves with one particular religion. Why can’t a child enjoy bible stories, celebrate Diwali and Hanukkah, AND pray five times a day? Why can’t you be an evangelical and gay? Or be a muslim but skip the fasting month of Ramadan? Be a Jew and enjoy a good ham sandwich?
I believe in God and hope that my son does too. But it has to be HIS decision.
If I raised Hayden with an organised religion, I’d be exposing him to too much risk:

  • The risk of getting identified with one branch of ideas, rather than seeing the whole picture.
  • The risk of exposure to intolerance, guilt or fundamentalism.
  • The idea that he had to live his life, unquestionably based on the ideas from a 1000 year old book.
  • The risk of feeling guilt, shame or fear if he broke any one of the hundreds of ‘rules’ that often make no sense but are blindly followed generation to generation.
For religion takes itself way to seriously.
And once you’ve been raised on religion, and had it drilled into you, all your life from the time you learned to first speak to early adulthood – it’s really hard to say“It’s just a book”.
But with Star Wars, as Hayden gets older and realises that his Dad was just a silly science-fiction geek, he’ll always be able to say…“It’s just a movie”.
And this liberates him to forge his own life. His own beliefs and his own identity.
Or in the wise words of Kahlil Gibran

“Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.”

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Monday, February 17, 2014

In the News; When are all the states going to get it?

On February 13, 2014, a Federal judge ruled that Virginia's marriage ban was unconstitutional. In Kentucky the courts ruled that all same-sex marriages from out of state must be recognized in the state (just like straight marriages! Imagine that!).  - This is all great news for equal rights. However, gay couples in both states can't marry there until it goes BACK to the Supreme Court. Dammit. 
 - If the Supreme Court did the right thing the first time, states wouldn't have to be sued to come the the simple conclusion that Equal means Equal. SIGH. 
   When are all of these conservative states going to understand that Equal means "Equal"?? All of this mess could be avoided. 
    Conservatives in Wisconsin took their intolerance a step FURTHER. They were voting on a law to imprison and fine up to $10,000 any gay couple residing in the state, who married in another state. 
STORY: Bloomberg News: WI criminal-gay-marriage-ban story 
Again, I ask - What is wrong with these conservatives?  Sigh.   - Rob



STORY: VA same-sex marriage ban unconstitutional
Feb. 14, 2014  NORFOLK, Va. (AP) -- In a federal court ruling echoing decisions reached elsewhere in the U.S., Virginia on Thursday became the first state in the South to overturn a voter-approved prohibition of same-sex marriage.
U.S. District Judge Arenda Wright Allen issued a stay of her order while it is appealed, meaning that gay couples in Virginia still will not be able to marry until the case is ultimately resolved. Both sides believe the case won't be settled until the Supreme Court decides to hear it or one like it.
Allen's decision makes Virginia the second state in the South to issue a ruling recognizing the legality of gay marriages.
A judge in Kentucky ruled Wednesday that the state must recognize same-sex marriages performed in other states. But that judge did not rule on the constitutionality of same-sex marriages inside the state. Decisions similar to that of the Virginia judge have been issued in in Utah and Oklahoma federal courts.
The office of newly elected Virginia Attorney General Mark Herring took the unusual step of not defending the law because it believes the ban violates the equal protection clause of the 14th Amendment. In her ruling, Wright Allen agreed.
"The court is compelled to conclude that Virginia's Marriage Laws unconstitutionally deny Virginia's gay and lesbian citizens the fundamental freedom to choose to marry. Government interests in perpetuating traditions, shielding state matters from federal interference, and favoring one model of parenting over others must yield to this country's cherished protections that ensure the exercise of the private choices of the individual citizen regarding love and family," Wright Allen wrote.

Wednesday, February 12, 2014

In the News: AG Eric Holder extends new and equal same-sex marriage federal benefits

   In the news this past weekend was an amazing push for equal rights and protections for gay couples. That means that in addition to the 17 states where our marriage is legally recognized by the state and the federal gov't, now in  the 33 states that don't yet recognize our marriage  the Federal Protections will be afforded to gay couples legally married in states where gay marriage is "legal."  
  This is a great step toward getting all states to recognize gay marriage (and they should have done it anyway).  Here's the article that came out this week.


AG Eric Holder extends new and equal same-sex marriage federal benefits
 SOURCE: Examiner.com
ARTICLE: http://www.examiner.com/article/ag-eric-holder-extends-new-and-equal-same-sex-marriage-federal-benefits?CID=examiner_alerts_article

 February 9, 2014
Attorney General Eric Holder has made civil rights a priority for the Justice Department and he has put that commitment into action when it comes to the equal rights of same-sex couples. According to NBC News on Feb. 8, the Justice Department will extend a new package of federal benefits to same-sex couples starting on Monday.
Atty General Eric Holder
AG Holder stated that these new benefits would be extended to gay couples who are legally married and will also apply to those who live in states that do not recognize same-sex marriage. Some of these new and extended benefits include federal death benefits as well as educational payments given to surviving spouses of public safety officers who suffer sustaining injuries or even death.
According to Holder, “the federal government should stand by that hero’s spouse – no matter whether that spouse is straight or gay.”
The action is a further indication of the change and transition that has taken place since the historic US Supreme Court ruling back in June of 2013 that struck down an important part of the Defense of Marriage Act.
Under the new benefits package, government lawyers will also recognize same-sex spouses with the same rights as opposite-sex couples in federal court cases. Spouses can decline to testify against a spouse in federal criminal and civil cases as explained by Holder. Again, “even in states where same-sex marriages are not recognized.”
These new benefits will also extend to inmates in federal prison, including visitation rights. Same-sex couples will also be treated equally in federal bankruptcy proceedings.
This is another step in the Justice Department’s dedication to “confronting discrimination based on sexual orientation.” These new benefits give “lawful same-sex marriages full and equal recognition” and assure recognition of those same-sex marriages beyond the 17 states that have made commitments to marriage equality.

Friday, October 26, 2012

Civil Marriage v. Civil Unions: What’s the difference?

In Maryland -Please vote YES on Question 6 for marriage equality
Did you know that there are 1,138 protections missing from Civil Unions vs. "Marriages"? It's true. That's why people proposing that gay couples accept civil unions are proposing a second class-citizen.  That's why in Maryland, Maine, Minnesota and Washington State, it's important that people vote for the law to allow gay marriages. In MARYLAND -Vote YES on Question 6 (NOW endorsed by President Obama! )
To show you, here's an explanation from lawyers:

Civil Marriage v. Civil Unions What’s the difference?
SOURCE: http://www.glad.org/uploads/docs/publications/cu-vs-marriage.pdf (Updated December 2011)
Framing the conversation: What’s really at stake?
- First, let’s be clear. This discussion is about substance—not symbols. This blog explains why civil marriage, and not civil unions, is the only way to make sure gay and lesbian couples have all of the same legal protections as other married couples.
- Second, the discussion is about ending governmental discrimination against gay and lesbian families with respect to civil marriage and its legal protections and responsibilities—not about any religious rite of marriage. Every faith is and will remain free to set its own rules about who can marry and on what terms.
- Third, marriage is many things to many people. But it is also a legal institution in which governmental discrimination has no place.
Credit: Washington Post, Oct. 2012

Let’s compare civil marriage as a legal institution to civil unions as a legal institution.
What is marriage?

Marriage is a unique legal status conferred by and recognized by governments the world over. It brings with it a host of reciprocal obligations, rights, and protections. Yet it is more than the sum of its legal parts. It is also a cultural institution. The word itself is a fundamental protection, conveying clearly that
you and your life partner love each other, are united and belong by each other’s side. It represents the ultimate expression of love and commitment between two people and everyone understands that. No other word has that power, and no other word can provide that protection.
What is a civil union?
A civil union is a legal status created by the state of Vermont in 2000 and subsequently by the states of Connecticut, New Hampshire, New Jersey, Rhode Island, Illinois, Delaware and Hawaii. It provides legal protection to couples at the state law level, but omits federal protections as well as the dignity, clarity, security and power of the word “marriage.”
What are some of the limitations of civil unions?
Civil unions are different from marriage, and that difference has wide-ranging implications that make the two institutions unequal. Here is a quick look at some of the most significant differences:
Portability:
Marriages are respected state to state for all purposes, but questions remain about how civil unions will  be treated in other states since very few states have civil unions.
Ending a Civil Union:
If you are married, you can get divorced in any state in which you are a resident. But if states continue to  disrespect civil unions, there is no way to end the relationship other than by establishing residency in a  state that respects the civil union.
Federal Benefits:
According to a 1997 GAO report, civil marriage brings with it at least 1,138 legal protections and
responsibilities from the federal government,
including the right to take leave from work to care for a  family member, the right to sponsor a spouse for immigration purposes, and Social Security survivor benefits that can make a difference between old age in poverty and old age in security. Civil unions bring  none of these critical legal protections.
Taxes and Public Benefits for the Family:
Because the federal government does not respect civil unions, a couple with a civil union will be in a kind of limbo with regard to governmental functions performed by both state and federal governments, such as taxation, pension protections, provision of insurance for families, and means-tested programs like  Medicaid. Even when states try to provide legal protections, they may be foreclosed from doing so in joint federal/state programs.
Filling out forms:
Every day, we fill out forms that ask us whether we are married or single. People joined in a civil union don’t fit into either category. People with civil unions should be able to identify themselves as a single  family unit, but misrepresenting oneself on official documents can be considered fraud and carries potential serious criminal penalties.
Separate & Unequal -- Second-Class Status:
Even if there were no substantive differences in the way the law treated marriages and civil unions, the fact that a civil union remains a separate status just for gay people represents real and powerful
inequality. We’ve been down this road before in this country and should not kid ourselves that a separate institution just for gay people is a just solution here either. Our constitution requires legal equality for all. Including gay and lesbian couples within existing marriage laws is the fairest and simplest thing to do.
How real are these differences between marriage and civil unions, given that a federal law and some state laws discriminate against all marriages of same-sex couples?
Right now, a federal law, the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) denies recognition of same-sex unions conferred by any state for purposes of all federal programs and requirements. Only married same-sex couples have the right to challenge this discrimination, and, in fact, GLAD has filed a federal lawsuit to do just that.  For more information see www.glad.org/doma. If GLAD wins this lawsuit, or if Congress repeals  DOMA, then married same sex-couples will have access to the 1138 laws that pertain to marriage, but civil union couples will still not have this access.
About 40 state laws have laws and/or constitutional amendments that prevent same-sex couples from marrying. Using the term “marriage” rather than “civil union” is an essential first step to opening the door and addressing whether continued governmental discrimination against civil marriages of gay and lesbian  people makes sense.
How Does Marriage and civil unions remain different in practice and in principle?
- First, a few states have not taken a discriminatory position against civil marriages of gay and lesbian
couples. In those states, civilly married gay and lesbian couples should be able to live and travel freely and without fear that their relationship will be disrespected.
- Second, even as to those states with discriminatory laws and/or constitutional amendments, legally
married gay and lesbian couples from those states may well face some discrimination in some quarters, but their marriages will also be treated with legal respect in other arenas. Marriages are far more likely to  be respected by others than newly minted “civil unions.”
Using the term marriage also prompts a discussion about fairness.
Allowing same sex couples to marry (rather than enter a separate status) will allow gay and lesbian people to talk with their neighbors, their local elected officials, and the Congress about whether discrimination against their marriages is fair. Where gay and lesbian people and their children are part of the social fabric, is it right to continue discriminating against them in civil marriage? The federal government and states that have taken discriminatory positions against marriages of gay and lesbian couples could rethink those policies and go back to respecting state laws about marriage, as they have done for hundreds of years. In the end, we  will not be able to have this discussion until gay and lesbian folks have what everyone else has: civil  marriage.

Sunday, April 15, 2012

Where's the IRS? Mormon & Catholic Churches of Md SHOULD BE TAXED

  When the heck is the IRS going to do its job and monitor and TAX churches  that get into politics? 
   Here's an article about the Mormon Church, now joining the Catholic Church of Maryland to REPEAL the Gay Marriage law.   How "caring" is that? Finally a law is put into place to provide safety, health and financial security for gay couples and these hateful churches want to remove it?
  - THIS is why I left the Catholic church. It's a Hate Group. Pure and simple. How would these people like it if I voted to remove their Social Security, Medicare, Health care, disability? 
- Rob

  •  Members of the Mormon Church in Maryland are working to overturn the state’s recently passed marriage equality law, according to an email obtained by the Washington Blade.    In the message dated March 29 sent to D.C. and Southern Maryland-area church members, the writer states that a coalition of inter-denominational Maryland churches has joined to place a referendum before voters in November on the marriage law before it goes into effect.
      “We need to collect approximately 200,000 signatures by the end of May,” the email states. “We are looking for people to gather signatures within the LDS community.”
     

Saturday, March 17, 2012

Rob's 2 letters to the Newspapers: Bullying & Why Majorities Shouldn't Vote on Minority Rights

   I recently wrote 2 letters that appeared in the local newspapers. -  I know it's a tired subject to some, but now gay people in Maryland are fighting to keep the law that allows them to marry and enjoy the financial, health and welfare security and 1,138 benefits that straight couples enjoy. The law DOESN"T go into effect until January 2013. Why not now? 
  Because some African-American churches and the Catholic church, who are the most vocal opponents, are demanding their congregations get 50,000 signatures to put the law on the ballot in November. * NOTE: There are some churches that remain neutral, or refuse to rally against the law- THOSE I have respect for.
   Since WHEN does a Majority of people allow a Minority the same rights? Never. African-Americans were only granted equality by legislation. Every time equal rights for African-Americans were put to the ballot, voters said "No." The same thing is likely to happen with gay marriage, and these hateful religious leaders know that. I find it appalling. - Rob

LETTER #1: Some churches are behaving like bullies

  Bullying is something we are trying to teach our children not to do, yet some African-American and Catholic churches in our state are now prime examples of bullies. The vitriol from some clergymen against gay marriage is disgusting and hateful.
  These “leaders” are encouraging bullying against gay people. This is dangerous to teach their congregations to hate and be intolerant. Put simply, it is bullying. That is what it will lead to in schools, in our children, in adults.
  Gay marriage is now the law, and these churches are trying to take away that right of security between consenting adults who don’t affect these churches. They should instead teach acceptance and love, help the poor and single-parent families, care for the elderly and jobless. Churches should use their influence positively and help people instead of hurting gay people.
  Bullying is a serious problem and churches should not encourage it, but they are doing so in their fight to overturn marriage equality.

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There was a response to this letter from a woman who said "Why not vote on it, and let the people decide the fate of gay marriage?"  - Obviously, she doesn't know her history, so I wrote the Following letter:

LETTER #2: Majority Never Votes in Favor of Minority Equal Rights
In Cathy Bunge's letter to the Blade-News she asks "why not put gay marriage on the ballot and let everyone have their say?"
There are several reasons, Ms. Bunge: 1) It is currently the law. 2) It makes all of Maryland's citizens equal.
3) Most importantly, it is historically proven in our country that the majority never votes to allow rights for the minority. After the Civil War, it took Constitutional amendment to abolish slavery. Whenever it went to a vote, the majority (white) population voted it down. In 1870, it took legislators to ratify the Constitution's Fifteenth Amendment and finally prohibit denying a citizen voting rights based on race, color or previous condition of servitude" (i.e., slavery). The white majority refused to allow it. Also, African-Americans finally gained legal equality and justice in the courts (not by voters) as a result of the 1905 Niagara Movement of W. E. B. Du Bois. These are just three examples of how voting on the rights of minorities does not work. Sadly, no majority ever wants minorities to be equal. In short, equal rights historically can never be attained by voting from the majority. That is why gay marriage should never be a ballot question, especially if it has become the law.

 

Monday, March 12, 2012

IN THE NEWS- Good Grief! More grief over marriage

It's off to a flying start on a Monday - after a great weekend, I have to rant.
I (Rob) want to know when churches are going to stop attacking gay marriage. They've got so many problems in their own institutions that they sweep under the rug, and use money and media to bully.
 - Now, the Pope, a U.S. Cardinal, and a British Cardinal are all attacking gay  marriage, and trying to influence the law and block equality to prevent gay marriages.
MY MESSAGE TO THEM: Get OUT of politics. Get OUT of Civil rights. STOP being bigots.
Leave MY right to security and happiness alone!
 :Please address and clean up all the corruption, pedophiles, and other problems in your own backyard. Please do something positive!

I find it appalling that these men deny themselves intimate loving relationships, yet lobby and campaign to block gay citizens from having them. 
Articles below.
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Pope denounces U.S. political push to legalize gay marriage VATICAN CITY (Reuters) - Pope Benedict on Friday denounced the "powerful political and cultural currents" seeking to legalize gay marriage in the United States, where Maryland has just become the eighth state to allow it.
IN THE U.S.: NEW CARDINAL LEADING OPPOSITION TO MARRIAGE EQUALITY
 Dolan fought against gay marriage before it became legal in New York state last June, and in September he sent a letter to President Barack Obama criticizing his administration's decision not to support a federal ban on gay marriage. One leading opponent of gay marriage in the United States is New York Archbishop Timothy Dolan, who was elevated to cardinal last month.

http://www.reuters.com/article/2012/03/09/us-pope-gays-idUSBRE8280TQ20120309?feedType=RSS&feedName=domesticNews


British Cardinal Compares Gay Marriage to Legalizing Slavery (What a moron!)
Cardinal Keith O’Brien, President of the Bishops’ Conference of Scotland and Britain’s most senior Catholic, has hit out at the British Government’s plans to legalize marriage equality, saying in an opinion piece for The Telegraph that Britain cannot afford to “indulge” this “madness.” It is O’Brien’s statement that legalizing gay marriage is, in human rights terms, the same as legalizing slavery that has caused the most controversy however.  Read more: http://www.care2.com/causes/british-cardinal-compares-gay-marriage-to-legalizing-slavery.html#ixzz1oZWe9EtW
**COUNTER TO THAT STORY, ALSO IN ENGLAND: 
Let Gays into ‘Christian Marriage’ Says St Paul’s New Dean
The new dean of London’s St Paul’s Cathedral has said that the Church of England should embrace civil gay marriage.Rev Dr David Ison, bucking the recent trend of aggressive attacks over the plans from Church leaders in the UK, said the church should welcome gay people and allow them to participate in what he termed “the virtues of marriage” that are quite separate from the legal aspects. He went on to distinguish that the Church should be thinking of allowing same-sex couples to partake in ”Christian marriage,” rather than talking about homosexual and heterosexual marriages.


Wednesday, March 7, 2012

WASH POST OP-ED: Blacks and gays: The shared struggle for civil rights

This is an Op-Ed all religious people need to read.
Posted at 06:00 PM ET, 03/04/2012 at the WASHINGTON POST

Blacks and gays: The shared struggle for civil rights


You may recall that last month Gov. Chris Christie (R-N.J.) and I sparred over same-sex marriage on “Morning Joe.” You may also recall that at the end of the interview, the show’s anchor, Joe Scarborough, asked me, “[W]ould you compare the civil rights struggles of African Americans over 300 years in America to marriage equity?” Without hesitation, I said, “Yes.”
“It’s an issue of civil rights, as you said. It’s an issue of equality. It’s an issue of equal treatment under the law,” I said. “No one is asking for special rights. No one is asking for any kind of special favors. We’re just looking for the same rights and responsibilities that come with marriage and also the protections that are provided under marriage. In that regard overall we’re talking about a civil rights issue and what African Americans continue to struggle with is exactly what lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people are struggling with today.”
That didn’t go over so well with more than a few African Americans. They don’t see the struggles as comparable, equivalent or even related. Last Wednesday, @Brokenb4God tweeted to me, “@CapehartJ still can’t believe u think the choice of being gay is congruent to the struggle of blacks. Ain’t never seen no gay plantations!”
Clearly, she’s from the misguided pray-the-gay-away cabal, so no need to address that. I’ll leave the cheap and provocative “gay plantations” stink bomb alone, too, and get to my main point. What links the two struggles is the quest for equality, dignity and equal protection under the law. In short, gay rights are civil rights. It’s that simple.

Bullying and murder
Both African Americans and gays have been targeted because of who they are. Tyler Clementi jumped to his death off the George Washington Bridge after discovering his roommate  allegedly using a webcam to livestream his sexual encounter with another man. The trial of that roommate, Dharun Ravi, is going on right now in New Jersey.
Clementi’s September 2010 suicide drew national attention to bullying of young people, particularly gay teens. Back then I wrote about the harrowing week that month when there were five reports of suicides of young men and boys who felt they had no other way to end the bullying, harassment or invasion of privacy they endured because they were gay or perceived to be gay.
Seth Walsh, 13, hanged himself in his California back yard on Sept. 19. Rutgers University freshman Tyler Clementi, 18, jumped off the George Washington Bridge on Sept. 22. Asher Brown,13, from Houston shot himself in the head on Sept. 23. Raymond Chase, 19, from New York hanged himself in his dorm room at Johnson & Wales University in Rhode Island on Sept. 29. The circumstances surrounding the Sept. 30 death of a 14-year-old Indiana boy remain unclear, but he has been included in reports on this sad issue.
There have been many more, too many more, since then.
Their deaths came 12 years after the horrific murder of gay college student Matthew Shepard. At a bar in Laramie, Wyo., in October 1998, Shepard met two men who said they were also gay. They kidnapped, robbed and pistol-whipped him before tying him to a fence. He died five days later. Shepard’s shocking killing came four months after another murder that shook the national conscience. A black man named James Byrd was kidnapped by three white men, chained to the back of a pick-up truck and dragged more than three miles in June 1998. His decapitated body was found outside the small town of Jasper, Tex. According to the Jasper district attorney at the time, two of Byrd’s killers had racist tattoos and were supporters of the Ku Klux Klan.
Both murders sparked a national debate on hate crimes that culminated in passage of the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, which President Obama signed into law in October 2009. The bullying that has gained national attention of late has the attention of the Obamas and the administration and pop icon Lady Gaga.

VIDEO INTERVIEW: John Lewis - You Cannot Tell People They Cannot Fall In Love
 Rep. John Lewis from Georgia argues passionately against DOMA in the debate over the legislation in 1996, as shown in the documentary "Tying the Knot". Highly recommended.


Denied equal protection: the right to marry
Both African Americans and gays have been denied equal access to the rights, responsibilities and protections the Constitution provides. Just last week, Maryland became the eighth state in the country to legalize same-sex marriage. Washington State joined the club on Feb. 13. New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie (R) vetoed a marriage equality bill last month and called for a public referendum. Putting the rights of a minority up to a popular vote is wrong, un-American and immoral. And yet voters in New Jersey and Maryland very well may do just that in November.
Meanwhile, in lawsuits across the country, lesbians and gay men are fighting for legal recognition of their relationships by challenging state laws that deny it and the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA). Same-sex marriage was legal in California until voters passed Proposition 8 in 2008. A challenge to that ban is wending its way through the federal court system and is getting knocked as unconstitutional at every turn.
And those who are already legally married are demanding equal rights. Karen Golinski was legally married to her partner of more than 20 years in California in 2008. But when the federal employee applied for health benefits for her spouse, she was denied thanks to DOMA. Last week, the U.S. District Court for the Northern District of California ruled in Golinski v. Office of Personnel Management that Section 3 of the statute was unconstitutional because it violated her equal protection rights under the Constitution.
In this matter, the Court finds that DOMA, as applied to Ms. Golinski, violates her right to equal protection of the law under the Fifth Amendment to the United States Constitution by, without substantial justification or rational basis, refusing to recognize her lawful marriage to prevent provision of health insurance coverage to her spouse.
That’s a narrowly tailored argument the judge is making there. But “as applied to Ms. Golinski” could be replaced by millions of other names and “to prevent provision of health insurance coverage to her spouse” could be replaced by any number of the 1,138 rights and benefits denied to same-sex couples because of DOMA. And as I wrote last month, the inability to file joint federal tax returns, and avail themselves of Social Security survivor benefits or child tax credits compounds the income inequality and financial insecurity of gay and lesbian families. All because the person they love is of the same gender. This insecurity is exacerbated by the fact that you can still be fired because of your sexual orientation in 29 states. That number goes up to 34 if you’re transgender.
 
VIDEO INTERVIEW:  A Conversation With... Jonathan Capehart & Julian Bond 
Washington Post editorial writer Jonathan Capehart speaks with former NAACP chairman Julian Bond about the intersection of gay rights and civil rights.
WATCH:  http://youtu.be/6Exu6dG1E_Q 

Black leaders
African American resistance to same-sex marriage and linking the quest for it to the black civil rights movement emerged again in the push for marriage equality in Maryland. But an excellent counter to that are three black leaders who have been unashamed and vocal in their support of gay rights and who see the struggle of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender Americans as part of what they’ve fought for their entire lives: equality.
Rev. Al Sharpton, long a proponent of marriage equality, lent his voice to the successful effort in Maryland.
All of us must fight for what’s fair and for what’s right....Maryland, the time is now. Let’s be fair. Let’s do the right thing.
When DOMA came up for a vote in 1996, civil rights icon Rep. John Lewis (D-Ga.) delivered an impassioned speech on the House floor before voting against the measure.

You cannot tell people they cannot fall in love. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. used to say when people talked about interracial marriages, and I quote, ‘Races do not fall in love and get married. Individuals fall in love and get married.’ Why don’t you want your fellow men and women, your fellow Americans to be happy? Why do you attack them? Why do you want to destroy the love they hold in their hearts? Why do you want to crush their hopes, their dreams, their longings, their aspirations? We are talking about human beings, people like you, people who want to get married, buy a house, and spend their lives with the one they love. They have done no wrong.
VIDEO: The Reverand Al Sharpton supports Marriage Equality.


In a 2003 opinion piece for the Boston Globe, Lewis wrote, “I have fought too hard and too long against discrimination based on race and color not to stand up against discrimination based on sexual orientation. I’ve heard the reasons for opposing civil marriage for same-sex couples. Cut through the distractions, and they stink of the same fear, hatred, and intolerance I have known in racism and in bigotry.”
Civil rights icon Julian Bond told me during an interview for the PBS program “In The Life” in 2008, “Black people, of all people, should not oppose equality. It does not matter the rationale – religious, cultural, pseudo-scientific. No people of good will should oppose marriage equality. And they should not think civil unions are a substitute. At best, civil unions are separate but equal. And we all know separate is never equal.”
When I asked Bond what is the connection between the black civil rights movement and its gay counterpart, he said it was the immutable characteristics of the individuals involved. “You are what you are,” he said, “and you cannot be discriminated against in this country for what you are.
“And the fact that the black civil rights movement came to public attention before the gay civil rights movement, which is existing at the same time but I don’t think well known to people. . . These draw from each other. And the gay movement draws tactics and techniques and songs and slogans. As did the Hispanic movement, as did the women’s movement.”
Men and women picket the White House on May 29, 1965, in a protest organized by the Mattachine Society of Washington ( File photo - United Press International )
The hard work of the late Frank Kameny and the late Barbara Gittings attest to Bond’s remarks.
“It’s not that these movements are taking from us because the black movement took from other movements before us,” Bond continued. “We took from the labor movement. And I never heard anyone from the labor movement complaining about this. We ought to be proud of this and say, ‘Look what we did. We created a model that other people have followed.’ ”
Black people led the way to this nation being more fair and equitable. That some vigorously oppose LGBT Americans following in their footsteps, seeing kinship in their cause, is dreadful. As Bond said, “Black people, of all people, should not oppose equality.” And he’s right.

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